'The moment I saw him/her, I am in love'? Think again =)

Love at first sight.
I found it hard to buy that statement. Story.
It's not that I never admire someone at first meeting. It happens a lot, especially I am a kinda girl who is easily attracted to a man. Especially the hot one. Uhhh I can spend the rest of my day looking at that handsome face and great attitude, so willing to touch his whole...

Well, sorry, quite absorbed with the excitement Lol.

The point I am trying to make is I never believe one can truly fall and feel in love with someone whom he/she just firstly met. Admiring is possible, but it's different. I have admired Justin Timberlake since the first time I saw him, in elementary school. Is it love? No

But I guess I... you know, I'm trying to think that might be true anyway...

A few dayss ago, I happened to have a convo with my mother's friend. We talked about many things. Actually she's the one who led the convo, which kinda helped the unwitted me LOL.
She told me bout her past, like where she used to live and school before she came and lived in Medan, why she chose her present job, and how she met his husband.
And hers is kinda...surprised me! Like really? I thought that kinda thing only happened in fiction world... in romance series to be specific...

"I met my husband when I was young... in the ship that brought me, alone, from Jakarta to Medan." Said that woman.

"Ooh.." I responded, not so interested. At first. But finally she could grab my attention when she told me this thing.

"I was about to spend holiday there back then. One time, I had a coffee in the restaurant there. All of a sudden, a man, who then becomes my husband, spoiled his coffee at my shirt... around this area" She pointed at her stomach. "It was hot, you know... I screamed many teribble things at him because of that."

"What?" I rolled my eyes, couldn't believe what my ears heard. "He...spoiled his coffee...to you?"

She nodded. "Yes. And I screamed at him..."repeated her, "...in Karonese*. That was why he knew I was, like him, a Karonese. And after that in the ship, he followed me, asked about myself, my home in Medan, told me that we were brothers because we're coming from the same tribe and hometown so we should help each other..."

Up to this, I don't know how I looked like when I listened to her story. Hers wow-ed to the extent it made me wonder whether my ears really ever and was listening to this thing.

Okay, that was overboard. I just wanted to make it seem dramatic LOL.

Let's continue.

"...and after we arrived in Medan and separated, he didn't let me. He looked for my home and when he got that, he came and visited my family. And he easily got closer to my family..." I said enthusiatically.

"Waw he's so damn...brave! Thick-skinned, he is! I can't imagine he just...came in to your house and..." I lost words!

She laughed. "Yeah. And he did not stop there. When I went back to Jakarta, he asked my address to my parents before he also went back to that city. He introduced himself to my big sister that lived with me...and also successfully grab her attention, too."

"What? Really? Oh he really is a thick-skin!" I said with big laugh. "But I have to admit that he's brilliant, you know! Caught your family, then caught you! Well, it's quite unbelievable. It's so like TV series!"

She just smiled, her eyes looked up to the ceilling, perhaps quite reminiscing the days she was young, having a journey and coincidentally meeting a stranger, someone uknown, quite suspicious may be, but trying hard to get her attention, to grab her heart so that he could get in there and be her one. And that started from the very first time he saw and knew her.

After that, I told her she was so blessed to have a husband like that. To ever meet that kind of man who fought so much to get to know her, make her know him, and reach her heart.

So rare, isn't it?

Yeah this story makes me wonder whether Love at first sight does exist or not...
But the more I think about it, the more I believe in Love at first sight...NOT!
Lol yeah I think what happened to my mom's friend is not Love at first sight at all. Um, perhaps her husband admired her beauty at the first time. But he didn't take it for granted!  He chased her even to her home to get to know her deeper while also seizing the chance to take her heart and her beloved ones' too so if he finally made up his mind to propose, he surely has somewhat complete information, and vice versa.
Let's say, it started with admiration, and end up happily in a marriage.

Rather than believing in Love at first sight, I buy it more to Love is a process.

Not have the same opinion? Feel free to speak yours! =)

Problems soon solved

Belakangan ini aku baru sadar...
Di mata teman-temanku, aku tak lebih daripada 'cewek yang suka Jepang-Korea'. Gak salah sih sebenarnya, tapi waktu aku mikir-mikir lagi kok cuman segitu ya diriku di mata mereka.
Oke, aku akuin aku suka hueeebooh minta ampun kalau ada video klip penyanyi Korea favoritku. Aku suka banget diskusi soal Conan. Aku suka banget dengerin lagu-lagu bahasa Jepang ama Korea, nonton drama-dramanya plus anime, hingga akhirnya aku jadi tertarik belajar bahasa kedua negara yang penduduknya notabene mata sipit. Masih banyak lagi sebenarnya hal-hal lainnya yang mencerminkan diriku sebagai 'Chrystine si penggemar Jepang-Korea'. Tapi masa sih semuanya itu bener-bener nutupin hal-hal lainnya dalam diriku?
Dibilang sedih, kurang tepat. Kesannya aku sentimentil banget. Tapi yang jelas perasaanku saat ini jauh dari senang waktu ingat akan pikiran teman-temanku tentang aku.

Oh ya, dugaanku bukannya tanpa alasan lho. Beberapa orang langsung aja ngejawab pernyataan yang ada di kalimat atas itu waktu aku tanya apa yang mereka pikirkan tentang aku. Dan waktu aku minta terusin, mereka malah mikir. Hhh... di mata mereka aku bener-bener hanya begitu ya?

Yang membuatku makin kepikiran lagi soal pendapat mereka tentang aku adalah pernyataan Bapak Tumbur Tobing, seseorang yang dipakai Tuhan dengan sangat luar biasa, waktu membimbing saya dan teman-teman saya dalam pembinaan 'Christian Economist'. Dia memang ga menujukan perntanyaan ini langsung ke aku, tapi entah kenapa aku merasa perlu mencari jawaban akan hal ini juga. "Mereka tahu tidak kamu Kristen?"

Bukannya mau sok kudus, walaupun memang aku tengah berusaha untuk itu, tapi aku pengen banget aku dan kehidupanku benar-benar menunjukkan kalau aku ini Kristen -- pengikut Kristus. Sikap dan gaya hidupku haruslah mencerminkan Kristus, orang yang aku ikutin; Guruku, Juruselamatku, Tuhanku. Dan aku pengen ketika mereka, siapapun itu, melihatku, mereka bisa melihat sosok Dia yang sangat aku andalkan itu. Mereka bisa melihat aku yang Kristen, si pengikut Kristus. Yah, mungkin dengan kalimat yang berbeda lah, karena ga semua orang tahu tentang Kristus. At least, mereka menyebutkan salah satu ciri-ciri kepunyaan-Nya yang ada dalam diriku.

Aku sadari sepertinya memang ada hal-hal yang harus aku rubah dalam hidupku, salah satunya yang paling mendesak ialah rasa antusiasmeku pada Jepang-Korea. Tidak salah, tapi aku gak mau sepanjang hidupku orang-orang yang berada di dekatku hanya melihatku sebatas itu saja. Aku ingin mereka melihat sisiku yang lain, aku ingin menjadi saluran berkat bagi mereka lewat kehidupanku yang terbatas ini. Aku ingin menjadi instrumen untuk pekerjaan-Nya di bidang pelayananku ke depannya. Aku ingin mereka bisa melihatku sebagai Kristen. Aku sadari, itu bukan perkara mudah. Tapi ketika ada kemauan, Tuhan pasti siapkan jalan.

Aku gak akan meninggalkan rasa kagumku pada Jepang dan Korea. They indirectly tell me, in some ways, how to work wholeheartedly and not easily give up my dreams. They have good songs to my ear, good looking people to see, good stories to read and watch via drama or anime, unique languages to talk and speak (like mine ><). Yang harus aku lakukan ialah mengarahkan rasa antusiasme yang selalu berlebihan --pada apapun-- kepada Dia yang lebih pantas mendapatkannya. Karena aku adalah pengikut-Nya. =)

random blaaaaaaa

hello, fellas! I am now blogging at FEUI library while hunting for some sources for my writing. =)
first of all, HAPPY KARTINI'S DAY, GIRLS AND WOMEN! =)
well, I have just finished my cooperative class. like usual, I only hear a little of my teacher's speech. poor me. but a little means more than nothing. LOL.
it's been a long time for me not to write an imaginary story, and I am now missing for that. there is a writing competition in my campus, but the deadline will be in April 23, 2010. I do not know if I can make it... I still do not know what to write. Does God have take that precious talent away from me due to my laziness? I hope not...

I promise you I will come with novel's review in my last entry. But I can not now, because I do not know which novel I want to review. There are some new novels I successfully read till finish but... I am not in the mood... blaaaaaaaah.

anyway, just wait!


it's time for me to go back to my university work. byeeeeee
=)